Why do we have to have these parenting debates? Is there really a hard line between I'm not my kids' friend I'm their parent and I just want my kid to be happy! lol Both are ridiculous extremes.
Yes, I want my children to be happy but not stay in your pj's all day eating junk food happy. I know so many of those and it's not what I aspire for my offspring. I want them to have the joy of a successful life. Being able to be a productive member of society, overcome difficult challenges, make a difference somewhere somehow. Joy of a life well lived. That will require at least on some basis that they will NOT be happy all the time because some of the struggles we go through in life are not pleasant. I would love to but know better than to save them from all their own shortcomings.
That being said; I love hanging out with my kids once in a while. My eldest and I run errands every other Friday (usually because she has forgotten a week's worth of coats and lunch bags at school) we might run to the library, talk about our favorite books, grab some grub for the weekend BBQ and probably stop in at Barns and Noble / Coffee shop for a cuppa joe. She's an amazing person to talk to and has a huge heart for people.
My middle daughter is a bubble full of snuggles and usually covered in glitter or something pink and purply. No one is more fun to take out clothes shopping. Need to make something sweet, she'll point you in the right direction and come up with some amazing ideas along the way.
My youngest has some speech issues but loves detailed projects. She'll sit for hours working with a wrench or helping you with a puzzle. She's an awesome partner when I'm working on my studies and in general just good quiet company.
So yes you can be your kids' friend, have fun and enjoy life but that's not all parenting is and nobody claims that. People just see these one-liners and jump to extremes. Discipline your kid so they aren't obnoxious self-entitled brats, hang out with your kids and enjoy the people they are becoming. Respect your kids for their ideas and passions that may be different from your own. There is so much to this parenting thing and one-liners just don't cut it. Have a beautiful day peeps!
Yes, I want my children to be happy but not stay in your pj's all day eating junk food happy. I know so many of those and it's not what I aspire for my offspring. I want them to have the joy of a successful life. Being able to be a productive member of society, overcome difficult challenges, make a difference somewhere somehow. Joy of a life well lived. That will require at least on some basis that they will NOT be happy all the time because some of the struggles we go through in life are not pleasant. I would love to but know better than to save them from all their own shortcomings.
That being said; I love hanging out with my kids once in a while. My eldest and I run errands every other Friday (usually because she has forgotten a week's worth of coats and lunch bags at school) we might run to the library, talk about our favorite books, grab some grub for the weekend BBQ and probably stop in at Barns and Noble / Coffee shop for a cuppa joe. She's an amazing person to talk to and has a huge heart for people.
My middle daughter is a bubble full of snuggles and usually covered in glitter or something pink and purply. No one is more fun to take out clothes shopping. Need to make something sweet, she'll point you in the right direction and come up with some amazing ideas along the way.
My youngest has some speech issues but loves detailed projects. She'll sit for hours working with a wrench or helping you with a puzzle. She's an awesome partner when I'm working on my studies and in general just good quiet company.
So yes you can be your kids' friend, have fun and enjoy life but that's not all parenting is and nobody claims that. People just see these one-liners and jump to extremes. Discipline your kid so they aren't obnoxious self-entitled brats, hang out with your kids and enjoy the people they are becoming. Respect your kids for their ideas and passions that may be different from your own. There is so much to this parenting thing and one-liners just don't cut it. Have a beautiful day peeps!
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