Thursday, November 30, 2017

Can you be friends with your kids?

Why do we have to have these parenting debates? Is there really a hard line between I'm not my kids' friend I'm their parent and I just want my kid to be happy! lol Both are ridiculous extremes.

Yes, I want my children to be happy but not stay in your pj's all day eating junk food happy.  I know so many of those and it's not what I aspire for my offspring.  I want them to have the joy of a successful life.  Being able to be a productive member of society, overcome difficult challenges, make a difference somewhere somehow.  Joy of a life well lived.  That will require at least on some basis that they will NOT be happy all the time because some of the struggles we go through in life are not pleasant.  I would love to but know better than to save them from all their own shortcomings.

That being said; I love hanging out with my kids once in a while.  My eldest and I run errands every other Friday (usually because she has forgotten a week's worth of coats and lunch bags at school) we might run to the library, talk about our favorite books, grab some grub for the weekend BBQ and probably stop in at Barns and Noble / Coffee shop for a cuppa joe.  She's an amazing person to talk to and has a huge heart for people.

My middle daughter is a bubble full of snuggles and usually covered in glitter or something pink and purply.  No one is more fun to take out clothes shopping.  Need to make something sweet, she'll point you in the right direction and come up with some amazing ideas along the way. 

My youngest has some speech issues but loves detailed projects.  She'll sit for hours working with a wrench or helping you with a puzzle. She's an awesome partner when I'm working on my studies and in general just good quiet company. 

So yes you can be your kids' friend, have fun and enjoy life but that's not all parenting is and nobody claims that.  People just see these one-liners and jump to extremes. Discipline your kid so they aren't obnoxious self-entitled brats, hang out with your kids and enjoy the people they are becoming.  Respect your kids for their ideas and passions that may be different from your own.  There is so much to this parenting thing and one-liners just don't cut it. Have a beautiful day peeps!


Sunday, November 26, 2017

Russian Tea - Which one? Where from?

Years ago I started getting what some call winter allergies.  It's not an allergy as far as I know but I get a horrible cough for most of winter.  So when someone posted an all natural "Russian Tea" I had to try it out.  The interesting thing came when I tried to look up the recipe again.  You expect to find different variants but one thing is NOT like the other.  So today I'm going to be looking at the different recipes and try and figure what it's all about.  What actually came from Russia?

Lauren Greutman has you using tang sugar and instant tea (what the heck is instant tea?)
               I don't know, check it out for yourself it seems pretty simple.  Just not what I was looking for.  However, it is what I see most of the recipes look like, they have a powder mix that they just add water to when ready.  It's convenient for sure.

DIY - has you using a bunch of natural fruit juices and black tea.  This is the stuff.  We don't drink juice very often so the whole thing is a bit of a sweet treat.  I love it during the cold winter months when all you want is something warm and sweet. 

But where did it come from?

So from what I can gather, it's totally American.  First appeared in an American cookbook in the 20's and came from the south.  Considering it's like sweet tea with fruit juice that really doesn't surprise me much. From my studies though Russian's do love their tea, just not the same way we do.  This girl totally gets it and done her research too!

My Recipe

My recipe is a close variant of the DIY version so I highly recommend it for more detail.

  • 8 cups water - set to boil in a large pot
  • 1 cup water w 2 black tea bags set to boil

In first pot start adding after the boil has set.

  • 1/2 tsp cloves
  • 1/2 tsp cinnamon
  • 3 cups orange juice
  • 3 cups pineapple juice
  • 2 cups apple juice
  • 1/2 cup lemon juice.

Then add your tea and simmer, the stronger you like that taste the longer you simmer.

Enjoy hot!

Some say they like it cold, I personally do NOT. It doesn't have the same taste cold but each to their own.

Duolingo / German Notes #Preterite-1

Thought I'd put my duolingo notes online so that I could expand on them easier, share with others, and look back over them without the huge paper trail.  So here's the first one (I'm already 60% through the course, I might backtrack later).  Words to study or remember are underlined.  To practice yourself and look at all the cool notes Duo has (that aren't available on the android app yet ) check it out, tips and explanations are below that practice buttons.

  1. Er war vorher u Hause. He was previously at home.  Vorher: Previously, before
  2. Ich sah fit aus. I looked healthy.
  3. Was tranken Sie? What are you drinking?
  4. Wir aßen keinen Reis. We did not eat rice.    aßen  - did eat, ate
  5. Ich trank Bier. I drank beer.
  6. Er war da. He was there.
  7. Sie schwammen gegen den Strom.  You swam against the stream.  
  8. mit - with
  9. verschiedene - different 
  10. unterschiedliche - different
  11. noch - still
  12.  Wir kamen nach Afrika, als die Saison begann. We came to Africa when the season began. 
So our new words were:

Vorher - Previously or Before
Sah...aus - looked
Aßen - ate or did eat
War - was
Gegen - against

Most everything else was new tense of words we already learned.  So keeping it short and simple, don't worry it's will get more complicated soon!  

Review: Body

Auge um Auge! An eye for an eye
I'm looking for fun little matching games to add but can't find what I'm looking for as of yet.

So hopefully more fun stuff to follow. 

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Is this new? Nope!

Is this a new thing? Why are you all of a sudden interested in the UK?

Um.... I'm not.  Isn't it awesome when people who care about you don't notice your interests at all. lol.  Anyhow when did I become fascinated with the Britsh.  Oh I would say at the age of 5 or so when my dad would blare Supertramp from the record player.  My favorite was Blood Well Right! You've got a problem with your schooling, write it out in detail and take it to the higher ups.  Don't sit around complaining.  That was the main jist of the song from what I gathered.

Then there was David Attenborough, who I've watched his documentaries over and over and over again.  He was there on the telly many a night when I couldn't get a cranky baby to sleep.  Oh and not to forget teaching history.  I find the Kings and Queens with their take overs and rules quite fascinating. It's much like a fairy tale that really happened (minus the happy ending).

So really there is nothing new about my love of the old country across the pond.  I've just dug in deeper lately as I'm seeking my own interests for once.  Surely I'm not the only one.

Why I want to be away with the fairies. Maybe?

I'm not sure I should post this.  Do all marriages go through this? My head feels like it's going to explode.  Things keep clicking and it scares me.  How the hell did I get here? What was I thinking? Did I really enjoy doing this for the past 12 years? Was I that lonely that pure servitude seemed like heaven?

I get off the phone with my mum yesterday and she has explained a list of things she has to do for her current husband.  She doesn't enjoy it but it's what needs to be done as she puts it.  Then she says it.  "We don't have anything in common either.  My purpose is to make his life suck a little less."  WHAT!!!! That's all your focus is on? So marriage is nothing more than a life of being an indentured servant?  Indentured servants are suppose to be temporary but she's made it permanent.  Well, she's on her third marriage so not completely permanent but you get the idea.

I don't want to live a life that way.  I've seen love in the movies, I've seen it in my friends and I have no idea what that is.  We watched a movie where he gave his life for his girl (it was a japanise film, don't remember what it was called).  I was so moved by it that I asked, "would you do that for me"? He looked at me like I was crazy.  The few times I have thought about leaving he doesn't get 'upset' as one about to lose their love.  He gets cranky and grumpy as all hell.  Like one about to lose a good servant.

I have dreams of dancing in the rain, or in a club (not an american bar).  Sitting the evening away in a coffee shop sipping on some tea and catching up on the latest science news/discovery.  I want to help people that need help.  I want to help stop world suck.  Like the program the Green brothers have been working on for years.  I don't know what I want to do exactly but I'm tired of playing little miss home on the prairie.  We have nothing in common, there is nothing we enjoy doing together.  We don't like the same food, the same tv programs, the same music, the same video games. outings, activities.  We live in compleat different worlds.

I'm not leaving him, our girl need a father and I have no way to make an income as of yet.  Besides that he's a good guy, it's just hard to be passionate with someone you have no common ground with.

I've been here before and I did get my passion back, other than God's will I have no idea how.  I know part of it is that he shows love differently.  By working hard and supporting his family he 'loves' us.  I'm just not sure where I'm at right now.  I'm tired of walking on egg shells in my own home.  I'm not a very good actress.  I have a ladies retreat this weekend, maybe that will serve up some answers.  Maybe, that's all that I need.  Les femmes sont seules. Bonsoir! A plus tard. Ca va bien.

Monday, October 10, 2016

Love of learning, where do I go now?

Sometimes I wonder why I'm so into learning new things.  I don't know how normal anything I do actually is (and I don't really care). I think part of it comes from not having any interest when I was younger and now I feel like I'm missing that.  I want to accomplish something but I don't even have the smarts to know what that is.  What are the possibilities? The problems that I might be able to help solve?  What can I do?

The last time I went back to college I spent a year, took double course loads (and loved it). Eight years later I'm still paying on the certificate I got and can't use.  My spouse wanted kids so that's what I did instead.

From what I understand the University's across the pond have a spending cap which depends on subject and residency.  That being said from what I've seen you would only pay 3-12K a year.  That is so much more doable compared to our average of $20-40k a year.  Not including living expenses. They are one-year shorter, does that mean that the courses are more packed? I could totally dig that.

I think part of it, is the structure and the challenge.  I want to compleat something of worth.  Besides raising 3 awesome women.  How can I show them what it means to be awesome or what their true potential is when I'm stuck here scrubbing toilets and doing nothing but dreaming.

I'm currently doing free self-study classes from and dulingo but not totally sure where that will lead.  Trying to straighten the twisting road.

Saturday, October 8, 2016

More Dreams, help for humanity.

Ok back to reality for a moment.  At least I hope that's where I'm at. (Warning: this is not about the fairies in the UK) :) I just don't have the energy to make a new page for it and I need it on screen before I forget.

I have wanted to do something worthwhile all my life but I lack the ability to ask good questions.  That leaves me stumbling around in the dark a lot! I love to research and find new complex things but have a very hard time holding on to that information.

So what can I do that's worthwhile and helpful for other people? Maybe helping them grasp things that I missed.  I struggled in school a hell of a lot.  Like all 13 years.  My teachers knew something was wrong with me but could never figure it out.  They thought I was depressed so they kept sending me to the school counselor which never helped because they just tried to make me happy, when I wasn't sad.  I was off with the fairies(oops, there is some fairies  at work).  When I went to college I had a class called "Intro to Study of Disease" which had a huge section on mental disorders.  YaY I finally knew what my problem was.

So knowing my teachers just passed me by, I wonder if there are any other kids that feel that way.  I really want to learn grammar, I want to be able to write, read, and understand what the hell you're talking about.  But nobody has the time to teach me in a way I can learn!  I'm still trying to figure out what exactly I want to do, but I think it's going to start with an app or computer program.

A game that helps learn a multitude of basic concepts and eventually going into more advanced.  So anyone that needs that help can get self / interactive education.  Something anybody can do.  Without the fear or finding and hiring a tutor or having people condescendingly say "I can't hold your hand and walk you through this".  I've seen similar things around but the problem is you have to know what you want to learn.  One step leads to the next and so on for a multitude of subjects in one place.

Well that's my thoughts for now, I'm studying computer science and basic coding, I also got a couple of how to make an app books from the kids library (they don't have any of that information the adult section! WHY!?!?!

Anyhow, I can see the destination, it's kinda foggy but I know where it's at.  The problem remains, the road is dark and full of twists and turns.  I don't know the way but I'll stumble my way through till I can find a light.  Anybody have a light?